Domestic abuse occurs in all walks of life and may be physical or emotional. It is a pattern of controlling, coercive, threatening, degrading and/or violent behaviour, including sexual violence, by a partner in an intimate relationship.
Typically we think of domestic violence as only something being perpetrated by a man towards a woman. But domestic abuse can be perpetrated by a woman, and also occurs in single sex or non-binary relationships. The abuse may also be perpetrated on children and affects the whole family.
Survivors of domestic abuse often suffer ongoing mental or emotional distress, long after any physical damage has healed. This could mean some combination of low self-esteem, PTSD or complex PTSD, disrupted sleep and nightmares, anxiety or depression, intrusive thoughts, and a lack of trust in themselves and others. Every survivor is different and has their own story.
Since 2015 I have volunteered at a centre for domestic violence victims in North Carolina, where I facilitate online support groups and teach skills for stress and anxiety management.
If you work with me after experiencing domestic abuse, we will focus on addressing unmet emotional needs, strengthening your ability to use your innate resources, rebuilding self-esteem and self-confidence, and treating the trauma from the abuse with the powerful Rewind technique.
I do not work with clients in emergency situations. If you need to speak to someone about domestic abuse urgently, please call one of the helplines below or 999 if it is an emergency.